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Whatever Happened to “Madame Bovary’s Daughter”?

Thursday, September 8th, 2011

Author Linda Howard Urbach recounts the life of the young girl orphaned by Madame Bovary in a recently released book that will be introduced at several local book readings featuring actress E. Katherine Kerr.

Ever since Linda Howard Urbach, a Fairfield County author and copywriter, adopted her beloved daughter, Charlotte, 28 years ago, she has been concerned by the plight of orphans.

“Having Charlotte made me think about the whole experience of adoption,” Urbach said. A longtime resident of Westport, Urbach currently lives in the Black Rock section of Bridgeport, on the Fairfield border. “I often think about the children who get saved and the kids who don’t. It amazes me because people from the most horrible beginnings have the uncanny ability to survive.”

This coming-of-age story of a young girl left alone in the world is the driving force behind her recently released book, “Madame Bovary’s Daughter,” a fictional account of the orphaned daughter, Berthe, who is first introduced in Gustave Flaubert’s classic tale, “Madame Bovary.”

“The character just popped out at me,” Urbach admitted. “She had this terrible mother and a father who was never there. I wondered what it would be like to be the only daughter of the most world’s most scandalous mother.”

On Thursday, Sept. 8 at 7:30 p.m., award-winning actress E. Katherine Kerr will join Howard for a reading and book signing at the Westport Public Library. The duo will also appear at the Westport Barnes and Noble on Wednesday, Sept. 14 at 7 p.m., the Wilton Library on Wednesday, Sept. 21 at 7 p.m and at the Fairfield Library on Wednesday, Oct. 5 at 7 p.m.

Although Urbach has written other books, including “Expecting Miracles”, and is the founder of MOMoirs.com and a popular writing workshop and play of the same title, “Madame Bovary’s Daughter” marks her first foray into the historical fiction genre. Before sitting at the keyboard to actually write, though, Urban found that extensive research about the Victorian era was needed. “I don’t know how people wrote books before the internet,” Urbach laughs.

However, she enjoyed researching high fashion found in France during this time period as well as learning about the responsibilities and duties assigned to a ‘lady’ and her maid. She humorously recounts some of the maid’s tasks that are listed in a 1,200-page, hardbound book called “Mrs. Beeton’s Book of Household Management”, of which Urbach was able to get ahold.

Earlier in the summer, Urbach unofficially celebrated the book’s release at a book store signing on Cape Cod, where some of her family resides. Charlotte flew up from her home in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, to be part of the festivities. However, she didn’t read “Madame Bovary’s Daughter” until she flew home. Urbach said that she was simply thrilled that Charlotte was reading a book because although she was a Dean’s List and Honors’ student, Urbach noted that her daughter didn’t share her passion for the written word.

Urbach commented, “Charlotte said that not only was she reading it but that she actually really liked it. I was as thrilled by this as I was about having the book published.”

The book is dedicated to Charlotte and, in her honor, Urbach plans to donate a portion of the book’s profits to a local foster care and adoption agency. In conjunction with her book signing in Houston in October, Urbach is making a contribution to DePelchin Children’s Services. “Yes, I want people to buy lots and lots of copies of this book but I also want to send some of my proceeds to a charity that involves children,” Urbach stated.

For all of the local book readings, Urbach is thrilled to enlist the assistance of Kerr. The two initially met at Norwalk’s Theatre Artists Workshop. “She’s such a fabulous actress,” Urbach said, enthused.

Urbach is currently working on a book called “Sarah’s Hair,” which focuses on the hairdresser of the infamous actress, Sarah Bernhardt. Another orphan, the young woman is not only responsible for styling the 19th century celebrity’s coif, but she also fantasizes that Bernhardt might be her real mother. Urbach says that there is also a lot of information about Victorian hair fashions and French theater.

“Madame Bovary’s Daughter” can be purchased at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, IndieBound. For more information, go to madamebovarysdaughter.com.

Original Article may be found at: http://westport.patch.com/articles/whatever-happened-to-madame-bovarys-daughter-2

Press Release – Embryo Adoptions

Friday, March 25th, 2011


 FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

 EmbryoAdoption.org Adds More Web Videos to Raise Awareness About Family-Building Through Embryo Adoption and Donation

FULLERTON, Calif. – (March 25, 2011) – To raise awareness about the relatively new process of human embryo adoption and donation, the one-stop informational Web site EmbryoAdoption.org launched three new Web videos.

The first video, “A True Story of Embryo Donation & Adoption,” reveals a compelling story of two families brought together by their common desire to become parents.  Two additional videos share embryo donation and adoption testimonials from couples that struggled with infertility and found hope in the embryo donation and adoption process.

“There are just so many couples that just don’t know what to do with their embryos,” says embryo donor Jennifer Spohr, as she tells her story in the first video.  “They have many frozen [embryos] and if they don’t do something, they’re going to stay frozen forever.”

Hundreds of thousands of frozen human embryos in the United States alone remain in storage and in limbo, while couples grapple with the difficult decision of what to do with their remaining embryos after completing their family building efforts.  As couples weigh their options, many learn about embryo adoption and donation through the site’s fact sheets, testimonials, adoption stories, news archive, service providers and much more.  In fact, site traffic amounts to about 5000 visitors per month.

In addition to the three new Web videos posted this year, EmbryoAdoption.org features eight videos posted in past years.  Among these videos, visitors to the site will find perspectives from the medical community, background about where frozen embryos come from, and footage of special moments in the lives of children born through embryo adoption.

These videos also have an active viewership throughout the Internet. Users of video viewing sites such as YouTube, Tangle and UVouch have accounted for more than 50,000 views over the past twelve months.

EmbryoAdoption.org is maintained by Nightlight ® Christian Adoptions as part of its Embryo Donation and Adoption Awareness Campaign.  Nightlight provides adoption services through the Snowflakes® Frozen Embryo Adoption program (Snowflakes).  Snowflakes started in 1997 as the only organization of its kind to facilitate the donation and adoption of frozen embryos for family building.

Nightlight’s Embryo Donation and Adoption Awareness Campaign is supported by grant number 5 EAAPA081009-02-00 from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.  Its contents are solely the responsibility of the authors and do not necessarily represent the official views of the Department.

Contact:   Leisa Brug Kline, (949) 413-4447 or leisabrug@aol.com

Thanksgiving Thoughts About Adoption

Wednesday, November 24th, 2010
  1.      I’m thankful that Jesus Christ adopted me into His kingdom when I was nine years old.
  2.      I’m thankful that I was raised in an intact, two-parent household by my natural parents. Part of my motivation and endurance as it relates to my work with New Beginnings comes from the belief that every child deserves to have what I had. Loving grandparents, loving parents, and a loving family. No…they weren’t perfect and I’ve never said they were. But, they were THERE.
  3.      I’m thankful that Mom and Dad were married for over 51 years and that only death could separate them. Did they ever fight? You can’t imagine–and I smile when saying that. But, they taught us that you work things out and grow through the process.
  4.      I’m thankful that Dad and Mom stood up for their three kids when we messed up. And, when we did, “it was our fault.” We were never allowed to blame someone else, ask for a handout from the government or whine about life being unfair.
  5.     I’m thankful for two beautiful daughters and two wonderful grand-children…all the byproduct of adoption.
  6.     I’m thankful for the pastors, men of God, who have stepped on my toes through the years. They’re simply doing their job.
  7.     I’m thankful a great team of workers at New Beginnings. Everyone truly cares about birth mothers, babies and the value of human life.
  8.     I’m thankful for the models of manhood that I witnessed in my grandfathers, father and uncles. They were/are honest, hard-working and God-fearing.
  9.     I’m thankful that New Beginnings is supported by so many great people who care about the values of family, human life and caring for others.
  10.     I’m thankful, in advance, for someone who is listening to God’s voice and who will help bless the adoption ministry of New Beginnings…and others like us in America.

Tom Velie, LMSW

President

UNICEF – Nepal

Wednesday, August 25th, 2010

     According to UNICEF, there are 990,000 orphaned children in Nepal. But, for the two N.B. adoptive families who are in Nepal and praying to come home with the precious children, only two children “count” today. Thank you for praying for all of the American families who are in Nepal, who have been matched with orphaned children, and those who “unmatched” continue to believe that God called them to adopt from Nepal.

Adoption has a price!

Friday, June 18th, 2010

 ”and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s” (I Corinthians 6:19-20).

Have you considered the fact that making an adoption plan comes with a price for a good and caring birthmother? Cast away any thoughts you have about a birthmother being so hard-hearted that she “gives” her baby away. She is not giving a child away, but rather is making an adoption plan that is well thought out and planned because she cares.

There is also the adoptive family side of the equation. About once or twice a year (it is rare), someone calls and asks how much it costs to adopt. I sometimes hear folks whine about the cost…the same folks who are driving a nice new car…and I have zero sympathy for them. If a child isn’t worth more than their car then they don’t deserve to have a good and honorable birthmother hero choose them anyway.

Adoption is modeled after God’s plan for his people. Is adoption okay? Well…God thought so…

Tom Velie, President of New Beginnings

P.S. Please visit us at www.NewBeginningsAdoptions.org

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010


Cori and Shaina were adopted from South Korea over 20 years ago, and I’ve never witnessed a live human birth. Well…I’m not sure that I’d want to. :) . However, as President of New Beginnings, our female social workers tell us story after story about the humbling beauty of the birth process. Many allusions and referrals are made to the “sanctity” of the moment and the awesome wonder of birth. 

Come to think of it, I’ve never heard an atheist rejoice over the same experience, but I’m certain that some could put the glory of human birth into some sort of scientific (so called) babble. Go for it! I’ll stick with the divinely inspired and created version of things. 

And…for company, I’ll stick with Mr. Einstein. Birthmothers, who choose life and then are strong enough to choose God’s plan for children–the two-parent family, hats off to you!

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a

miracle. The other is as if everything is” Albert Einsten.

March 28, 2010 update from Nepal

Monday, March 29th, 2010

UPDATE – MARCH 27, 2010

New Beginnings of Nepal Children’s Home

Our fifth report and the Good News continues…

The Nepal Children’s Home has a new refrigerator, a microwave oven, a new cook stove, a new water filter system, an instant hot water heater, a vacuum cleaner, wall murals that brighten every room, new kitchen cabinets, a washing machine and some very happy house mothers.

            What were they most excited about? When the men moved the new kitchen cabinets in, Laxmi gave a superb smile to the group and hugged the ladies in appreciation. The humble nature of the Nepali people overwhelms those of us who view what we are doing as such a small thing.

            For the precious children, the highlight of our creations is the new swing set. Kudos to Randy Gould and Bill Rosser for the work on this project.

            Randy was planning to head home tomorrow, but changed his flight plans just so he could stay and help us complete more work next week. While there is more to be done, what has been accomplished is nothing short of amazing! And, unless you understand the lack of a consistent electrical supply and the difficult nature of shopping for basic items such as paint, lag bolts, cleaning fluids, paint thinner and wood stain, you can’t appreciate how much has been done.

We’re going to miss Rodney, Marcie and Carrrigan Weekley when they leave for home on Sunday. Carrigan, one of the first children to be placed for adoption through New Beginnings, has brought much joy to the children in the Home and has been a delightful addition to our group. Thank you for coming, Carrigan! And…without a doubt…this trip was the brainchild of Rodney. Thank you!

Our day will include a flight along the Himalayan Mountain Range.

For Monthly International Partnership information, and to make a true difference for a child, please contact the New Beginnings’s office at 662-842-6752 or e-mail us at Office@NewBeginningsAdoptions.org

New Beginnings of Nepal Children’s Home Trip – March 26, 2010

Sunday, March 28th, 2010

  UPDATE – MARCH 26, 2010

New Beginnings Children’s Home of Nepal

Our fourth report…and the “good work” goes on.

The bulk of our work on the Children’s Home has been completed, but there is much more to be done in future trips. We’ve exhausted our budget, and we’re extremely grateful to some special donors who completely supplied the unfinished portion of the work. What a blessing and a great thank you is owed-I haven’t received permission to publish the name so we simply say “Thank you.”

The Kathmandu Resort Hotel in Thamel has been our home for the past week. The service is excellent, the rooms are comfortable and the breakfast on the Rooftop is very nice. Overall, we’re pleased with our lodging and recommend this hotel for future travelers.

Tom has met with individuals who server the adoption community on three occasions, and on Friday night he enjoyed meeting with his friend, Mr. Paudel, who visited Tupelo in 2008. Together, they enjoyed a delightful traditional Nepali dinner-Tom skipped the Dhedo.

We’re having a wonderful time! George “Fly Paper” Miller has become a legend on streets of Thamel. The local vendors know an “American Banker” when they see one. He has more followers than Joel Olsteen. If you don’t like the Fly Paper nickname, how about “Big Laughing Buddha?” In case you don’t understand, this is quite a compliment in Nepal.

In the next edition…cold showers, airport “bombings” and whatever.

Friday, March 26th, 2010

  UPDATE – MARCH 24-25, 2010

New Beginnings Children’s Home of Nepal

Our third report to those of you who are following the day-to-day efforts of a fantastic group effort to benefit children brings you a variety of stories that will, hopefully, portray a small portion of our efforts. We are at the end of Day #4 at the Children’s Home in Kathmandu, Nepal.

The Wounded Warrior #1, who shall remain nameless until our return, survived a heroic effort to move the new washing machine with bare his bare hands…until the machine slipped. Bandaged, taped and moving on like a “real man” has been easy and a source of pride for a seasoned veteran of mission trips.

All of us have received an Artistic Education compliments of Amber Corey and her arsenal of paint brushes.  The five children who presently reside in the lovely home are awed by murals of Noah and the Ark, “1…2…3,” “A…B…C,” balls of multiple colors, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord,” a Manger scene and a “Jesus Love Me” message, along several more lovely full-size art projects.

The Ladies have outworked the men…at least in “their minds.” I’d vote in favor of ladies. They have painted several rooms, hallways, a three-level staircase and they’re still going strong. Word has it that Rodney will be starting a new church-in-a-day project just for ladies. They are awesome!

The old saying “What Goes Around, Comes Around” certainly holds true for Carrigan. This beautiful and sweet-spirited young lady has watched over children, painted with the ladies, and been a bright-shining-smiling spot in the middle of chaos. Who is she? The daughter of Rodney and Marcie Weekley and one of the first children to be adopted through the New Beginnings domestic program many years ago.

New Beginnings International Children’s & Family Services (of Mississippi) Board member, Andrea Blaylock and Tom Velie, President of NBICFS, spent the morning recording segments with the volunteers and children. This DVD project will be available for viewing…sometime. J Seriously, please request your copy now. They project will be free to Nepal Children’s Home monthly Partners-please e-mail Tom Velie at TomVelie@nbicfs.org to request your copy. Or…you may call Brenda Vinson at 662-842-6752 to place your order.

George Miller and Bill Rosser have combined efforts to build kitchen and library cabinets with Sporadic bursts of electricity available.  Have any of you tried building cabinets when the electrical power is off from 11:00 a.m. – 8 p.m.? Well…we rented a generator on Wednesday, but it didn’t run until this morning. Hand-sanding, hand-sawing, hand-everything are a way of life in Nepal. If you don’t believe it, just as George and Bill.

Chief Cleaner and “Go-To” Cleaner is none other than Marcie Weekley. She’s a super trooper. No kidding, she hasn’t said much, but she has done much. Always smiling, always offering to help, and always ready to sing “Jesus Loves Me” to one of the children.

Swing set ConstructionYou had to see it to believe it! Rodney and Randy carrying a huge beam down the road from the lumber yard. No delivery truck for these guys.

Appliance Shopping 101 with Bobby Adhikari and Tom Velie was quite an experience. But…we managed to purchase a refrigerator, microwave, stove top, rice pot, water filter, gas water heater, even a new washing machine.

Pat “Eagle Eye Blaylock ministered to the Wounded Warrier and painted her heart out today. However, I keep seeing her getting sidetracked by the beautiful children. Yup, that’s why we’re here!

Randy Gould and Craig Peterson completed their version of a Nepali Temple on the “Top of the House” at the “Top of the World.” No, it’s not a shrine to a pagan god. It is an example of ingenuity and frugality. And…it lets in light while protecting against the annual monsoons. Why don’t you come to Nepal and check-it-out yourself?

The stories are simply too numerous to tell, from “How to not purchase a mirror” by Rodney Weekley. “How to carry a REAL 2X4 up the stairs” by Craig Pedersen, “How to move a washing machine by one of he guys. “Why I’ll always curry my food” by the Blaylock Sisters,” “How to start a generator” by Randy Gould, and “How to survive shopping in Nepal by Craig Pedersen.

After meeting with adoption representatives, our hope continues to be that caution and diligence will be exhibited in the adoption investigation process.

Nepal – March 23, 2010

Wednesday, March 24th, 2010

Top of the World – Nepal – March 23, 2010

By Amber  Corey

It’s hard to believe that we have only been working at the orphanage for 2 days. So much has been accomplished! 

The orphanage consists of an extremely nice building with drab décor and a long list of needed repairs. Our team jumped right in with both feet. A group of men headed out to find the needed materials (quite a feat in a country that appears to be stuck in the 70s) while the ladies did what we do best…take over! =)

We began cleaning, painting and loving on the 5 beautiful children that are currently living at the home. In the two days we have been here, we have almost completely finished all of the background painting for 5 rooms.  We have even started on the next step…the murals! The kids’ school room now has ABC, 123, colors, and a chalkboard painted on the fun blue walls. Talk about an improvement from the dirty, dingy grey we started with!

The guys have had many unexpected obstacles. Paint is not readily available…and what we found is more of a plaster consistency that is mixed with water to form a white wash. The power goes off right in the middle of the day. Yesterday, that meant they were unable to sand, saw, or even fill the new water tank we purchased with water!  These obstacles have really us pull our knowledge and resources together to think outside the box.  Sure, we can cut the tops off of water bottles and use them as paint cups.  Yes, sticks from the yard work perfectly for stirring paint. Of course, we can build our own scaffolding out of lumber.

These first days have been enlightening, to say the least. Our eyes have been opened to a culture very different than our own. Never will we walk in Lowes or Home Depot with the same mindset! Once again, through seeing poverty first hand, God has reminded us of His blessings in our lives and how He intends for us to use them…to be a blessing to others.